Good food for bad company

 I am sure you are familiar with that kind of people who impose themselves on you, who practically invite themselves to your house...I know a few of those people and one of them has recently happened upon us. I am a very solitary person, I enjoy my privacy and unannounced guests or..imposed guests cause me a great deal of a headache. That is because I enjoy being a good host, I clean the house, I wipe the cat hair off the furniture and I cook special dishes that usually keep me hours in the kitchen.
So you can understand my utter disgust when I realized that my efforts were not appreciated, quite the contrary, they were trifled with and mocked at. The person for whom I slaved in the kitchen, baking bacon spirals in pastry and rose rolls, is a very cheap kinda man, the one who brings, when visiting someone, a bag of chips...yes, that's right, no fancy wine or cake...just a bag of chips.
 If he'd brought nothing, it would have been a lot better. He is also a very critical person, although he is uneducated, unpolished, unloved and usually avoided by most of our acquaintances. So, during four very very long hours, he kicked my cats, he criticized my food, although he ate it all, I mean all of it, he drank all the wine, he talked exclusively, and I mean exclusively about him and his amazing life, not once did he ask my boyfriend about his health, he smoked without permission til my eyes stung, and when he finally decided to leave, he needed to borrow some money for gas..I'd have given him the car, just to see him out of my house. He threatened us with another visit to give us the money back, but we assured him it was no problem, no problem at all...

18 comments:

The Furries of Whisppy said...

My goodness. The nerve! You're really patient to put up with all the nonsense for FOUR hours! If someone came to my house and kicked my cats, you can bet I would have kicked him out immediately.
For your sake, I hope he doesn't return...

Mynx said...

I can only think he must be some sort of relative for you to put up with such rudeness. Perhaps if he should want to return, you might be out

virginia robertson said...

I along with you love to be that amazing hostess and want everything just so. Oh my, you have indeed extreme patience, for I don not... I usually make it very uncomfortable for people like that... I must admit I do tell fibs and say I must be somewhere in a short time... I know, I am shameless, but to keep my calm and composed, I must admit...

Grace said...

The food looks awesome! I suppose peeking out the window to see who is at the door and then hiding if it's someone like this jerk, is out of the question?

If I came to visit I would bring wine or beer or maybe flowers or chocolates (or all of that) but food - never. You are much too awesome a cook - I would be embarrassed to offer anything I could make!

Botanist said...

Grrr! This kind of behavior makes me mad. The worst part is, he probably imagines he's doing you a favor by gracing you with his esteemed presence!

Just remember, you are a better person for managing to rise above it and remain a gracious host, despite the temptation to kick him in the teeth.

Sissym said...

Dear Friend, I quite understand you. I am unable to go into the house of a person without asking how I could help with the snack and if say 'nothing', of course, I'll take to my taste.

I'm absolutely sure that everything you do makes well done.

Hugs

Sparkle said...

At my house, he would have been shown the door the moment he did the tiniest mean thing to any of us kitties! But then, my human is not much of a hostess. She might straighten up, but usually has no food or drink unhand other than fitness water for guests. And when she goes over to people's homes, she does not even ask for that much - just some attention from the cats, if they are not shy, and good conversation. The house can be a mess and no food there, and she would not care as long as the host was interesting and fun.

The Elephant's Child said...

Hiss and spit. He deserved none of what he received at your hands. He possibly does deserve the things your mind dreamt up for him.
Gertrude Stein (in the autobiography of Alic B Toklas) talks of an univited guest receiving fried eggs - instead of an omelette, saying words to the effect of 'it uses the same number of eggs, but shows no respect'. I laughed out loud. True I said.
And isn't wiping the cat hair from the furniture a challenge?

Buttercup said...

I think I would have feigned appendicitis to get this guy out of my house. I think your refreshments sound great. I've had folks over (they're in my study group) and they left filled glasses on my upholstered chairs. I'm not sure how anyone thinks to do that. What world did these people grow up in?

Linda R said...

Well that sounds like no fun at all. I don't think I have ever met anyone so rude before. Or should I say I haven't met any one so rude that has come to my house. Hopefully he won't come back for a long time. If at all.

Hugs~

BTW-Your dish looks so yummy.

Tammy said...

Yeah, I knew a few people like that too *eye roll* You can pick your friends but not your family, isn't that the way the saying goes? ;) Seriously though, what a schmuck.
After what he did to your little kittens, I wouldn't let him back in your house. You'll feel better about yourself in the long term. ...You're a good person, Petronela for putting up with such repulsive behavior....and you're extremely patient too. Christ knows patience is not one of my finest qualities among other things...

Creeps like that are an insult to humanity. Well, usually the saying goes, "Hope the door doesn't hit you on the way out." In this case however, I hope it did.

Big hugs from a New York gal,
Tammy<3

Judith said...

The spirals look delicious. ALL of the food pictures you post look scrumptious. Sorry you went to so much effort for so little enjoyment. You are a wonderful hostess. You made your guest feel welcome, whether he realized it or not.

Judith said...

Your bacon spirals make my mouth water. ALL of the food pictures you post look scrumptious. Sorry you went to so much effort for so little enjoyment. But you are a wonderful hostess. You made your guest feel welcome, whether he realized it or not.

Janet Gardner said...

What is wrong with people, how rude, I hope for your sake he never stops by again!
Hugs & Kisses,
Janet :)

Shannon Lawrence said...

Wow, you put up with a lot. You also sound like a fabulous hostess! My jaw dropped at the kicking cats part. I'm allergic to dogs, and I will sit there and pet a host's dogs and pay for it later. No reason to be mean to an animal. Someone needs to kick him! I hope he fails to grace you with his presence again.

Shannon at The Warrior Muse

Dixie said...

Your description of the 'guest' sounds exactly like a neighbor of mine.
Thank you for posting a couple of 'how to' photos; I must try this!

Take care. Smile.

Catherine said...

Dear Petronela, It is difficult because you are a kind and polite person. You know bad manners when they exist and do not want to partake in bad manners. Unfortunately, people like to take advantage of others. If this is the case a very kind women once told me, "say no when you mean no and yes when you mean yes." It was the best advice given to me. I too, never wanted to be rude and seem unkind, but it is unkind to yourself and you must not allow yourself to be taken advantage of. If this person "drops" by again you must say you are not available and the visit must be cut short, period.
You will feel better about you and the respect you have for yourself and your poor cat too!
Blessings my dearest. Catherine xoxox

lettersfromlaunna said...

Omg Petronela... I am sure I would have thrown him out, lol... I really cannot take people being so rude.

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