Somebody's Wife

My mother constantly reminds me that I am supposed to...eventually get married. It is most insufferable. I have been promising her and the rest of my family and friends that I would conform ...eventually...but I never seem to bring myself to do it. I am missing the bride gene :). Last year I was bragging about how determined I was to say "I do" in late summer (To bride or not to bride). I am still a bachelorette as we speak...So you see, I cannot be relied upon, when it comes to this decision. It's true...I am involved in a seriously long relationship, but evidently that is not enough. I MUST put it in writing...apparently. My poor partner is bored and tired to renew again and again his proposals, but I am sure he has understood until now that becoming a married woman is not my favorite thing on the agenda. In the meantime I keep promising everyone that ...we are just about...to get hitched...Who knows, maybe next year...or next decade.

17 comments:

C.J. Sullivan said...

I say do what you want. I'm not planning on having any kids, and my family and Drew's keep insisting that it's on our agenda. Life's too short to live by someone else's standards. If you don't want to get married, I'm sure there's a good reason!

Big D said...

Seconded. Marry when you feel the time is right and if anybody has an issue with it...that's why you've got middle fingers.

The Furries of Whisppy said...

Hahaha. Well, if it's of any consolation (though I strongly doubt you need it), I am lacking in the baby gene. LOL.
Marriage is between you and your partner. And if you are both fine with the current arrangement, so be it. :)

Launna said...

I think you should get married when or if you are ready... and not before:)

Lost in Space said...

I also say do what you feel best with. The decision whether or not to get married should be between you and your partner, who it comes across that you already have a good relationship with from reading your blog. Do what is right for the both of you.

Sparkle said...

My human and her boyfriend have been together 19 YEARS and they are still not married! They actually got engaged a few years years ago, but my human has been dragging her feet when it comes to doing anything about it (receptions are so expensive, etc...). So you are not alone.

Judith said...

My older daughter turned 37 in March, still unmarried. She has 2 boys--19 & 17, and they lived with us until last August. (Yes, she was 16 when she got pregnant). The boys' father fell through, so I thought when the boys grew up and left, she might marry, but I'm not sure. The idea of a ring and forever don't appeal to her yet. Somewhere along the line, the laws here will benefit her if she can pull on her significant other's social security, and vice versa. But that's not an enticement yet. Not sure when it's time to be practical, but each person's choice is different.

Tamago said...

I did lack bride gene for a long time and eventually got married last year. And I am glad I waited that long. There is no need to get married if you are not ready :-)

L.G. Smith said...

I think some people get married just so they can have a big wedding. But if you're already in a long-term relationship and you are happy, why not just throw a party for everyone instead? :)

Elephant's Child said...

Snap. My partner and I have shared our lives for over thirty years now. Not married. No wedding on the horizon. Our commitment is to each other, not to the expectations of other people. It might happen some day, but in our time.
Cherish what you have.

Lexa Cain said...

I think you need a bit more than determination to wed by late summer - you need a guy willing to do it, too. Don't worry about what your family thinks. When the right one comes along, everything will be fine. Just be patient. :-)

unikorna said...

Lexa you probably haven't got to the final part of the post...:)>

Dixie said...

Too bad the family needs 'the' ceremony to feel comfortable about your life. We are all so 'programmed', huh? Unless of course it would make you a better writer(smile). Nice picture too!

Mynx said...

I think you will do it when it feels right for you.
Have you thought maybe of a less than traditional ceremony? Perhaps it is all the fuss of big white dresses and all the traditions that have you hesitating.
I always thought that would never have married a second time except that I wanted children and I am a tradionalist in that way

Linda R said...

I have to agree with everyone else on this one. Do what feels right to you..
I am sure your inter instincts are right....

Hugs~

Shaharoh said...

Getting married can be a stressful ordeal and there's nothing wrong with taking your time. Perhaps, in your heart, you are already married as you are spending your life with your partner and living happily. If it ain't broke...xoxo, Beautiful!

Petula Wright said...

The paper is overrated. I say this because I believed in and dreamed about the paper for so long then ended up divorced. I'm surprised at how many men say they want to marry (men in their 40s) and I would be "content" to be in a seriously long relationship like you. My mom wouldn't be happy either, but she'd have to get over it. Do what you do and keeping on rocking it!

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